Long story short, I want to lift at night instead of the day because it's more convenient. I'm thinking of lifting then eating dinner, is this ok or will it mess things up?

It's fine, but you should make sure that you eat not too long before you lift, also. A hearty meal an hour and a half or two hours before, or a snack closer to it. Otherwise you'll actually use up your muscle as an energy source to fuel your body and working out will do the opposite of what you want.

Do you do any kind of post-workout shake? And how long after this will you be going to bed?

I was thinking of going to work out first and then immediately after I would eat dinner. I'll probably go to bed at around midnight.

I don't have any post workout shake. What does that do?

Well, I've never really done the pwo shake thing (a few times I've had some whey in water, but I don't think it's a pronounced enough difference that one can do it and be like "Yeahhhhh, feelin' more pumped!"), so I'm not the best source for that. I'd just google stuff like "post-workout nutrition" etc to see what pops up from reliable sources like dragondoor or bodybuilding.com etc.

The main reason I asked the other stuff is that the idea of post-workout nutrition contradicts pre-bedtime nutrition. When you eat after a workout you want thinks that absorb quickly and go straight to the muscles, helping them repair immediately etc. When you eat before bed you want stuff that'll stay in your tummy and take a long time to digest, trying to minimize the effects of catabolism (your body eating itself, more or less) overnight.

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Eating shortly after lifting is usually highly encouraged.

I'll def check those sites out.

As for nutrition, let me get this straight, I don't want to mix things up.
After a workout, I should get some meat like a chicken breast. Would burgers be ok?
Pre-bedtime, it's ideal to eat carbs just as long as it's a couple ways away from bedtime.


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Chicken would be better... Burgers are okay I guess but you're getting a lot more calories, saturated fat, etc. with the protein. It's really not that huge of a difference, but something to think about perhaps. Depends on how badly you're workin' for results I guess.

You should eat a good mixed meal. Carbs, and high GI ones are more important here than other things.